How Do I Find My Purpose

The essential question of all time is does purpose exist If so how do I find my purpose This question was burning within me since I've been a young lad and I discovered it Look at the nearest plant tree animal around you anything in nature We don't need to ask these things Do you have a purpose They are fulfilling their purpose spontaneously by nature without the external drive to find it The funny paradox is you are already filling and fulfilling your purpose by even being here It s done Your very existence itself is fulfilling the purpose of your existence It's silly it's crazy its foundational and it's essential It's big and obvious when you get it And when you don t get it it can be one of the most painful things within your being Many times when we don't feel we're on purpose on track with what we're here for or perhaps we don't even know what we're here for we suffer We may have been living years of our life feeling somehow empty and devoid of higher meaning and purpose Many of us aim to fill this void with all types of distractions food booze sex drugs TV It s endless We use whatever means we have to somehow cover up this pain and fill this emptiness of not knowing what our deepest purpose is Now my friend if we can start from the premise the humorous premise that being here already is fulfilling our purpose we can let ourselves off the hook to try to find something to live for I'm giving you permission right now let go of the idea that you need to find something that drives you to have some great meaning some great earth - shattering Ah - ha moment Now having said that one of the things I've discovered in my work with entrepreneurs in my work with those who have a sense of leadership and strong creation is that there's a natural energy we all have to move forward So could there be a purposefulness inherent in our nature that s already moving forward that doesn't need our intellectual addition or our emotional addition of purpose onto it Perhaps what our nature requires is for us to relax and feel what is wanting to emerge within us now Not what we want to happen but how our natural purposefulness is emerging without our effort A way to feel into your natural purpose which is very interesting is to ask yourself this question What did you not get enough of as a child that you wanted more of Did you want more attention acknowledgement from your parental figures Did you want more touch and to be seen for who you are Did you need more direction and clarity and words of encouragement Perhaps you felt you needed more challenge and not so much coddling so that you could grow some grit and self-resourcefulness in life Perhaps you needed more tenderness just being loved for who you are without needing to fulfill any contract or get any marks or any of that What did you want more of my friend that you didn't get enough of Just feel for that for a moment Why am I asking you this Because I found that it's part of the secret to your individual purposefulness One of the steps lies in this search this inquiry For me as a child I wanted more acknowledgement My parents were lifetime entrepreneurs working their buns off on all types of businesses from morning till night seven days a week at times for years on end As their child I wanted to be seen I wanted to be felt I wanted to be acknowledged for who I was not just as another thing to do in the day or someone to take care of What's yours What's your signature black hole of emotion Your signature core wound emotionally the thing that you did not get that you really needed more of Take a moment to be honest and feel for that Now here's the secret I ve discovered of purpose I wanted more acknowledgement so guess what my purpose is It's to give acknowledgement It's to recognize that void and instead of trying to fill it with women sex booze chocolate cars mansions whatever turn it around into a place to live from to gift from What s interesting is that these areas of our brain where we felt a lack as a child the dendrites didn't develop fully so it can be hard to even appreciate getting those things that we wanted more of as a child Even when we get that acknowledgement or support or care later on in life it can feel fulfilling only temporarily So when people acknowledge me now Satyen you are this You've accomplished this I feel happy to acertain degree but it becomes empty and neutral very quickly as well because I don't even have the dendrites of full appreciation for this acknowledgement built into my system If someone fully says over and over Satyen you are this and this and this I have doubt that comes up It feels like I don't even trust the acknowledgement when it's coming in You have that side inside of yourself as well I'm sure

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