Relationship Skills Anger Guilt Jealousy with Dr Dawn Elise Snipes

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16 Jul 2021

Explore Relationship Skills related to Anger Guilt Jealousy and Their Impact on mental health and Interventions to reduce distress and improve relationships in this video by Dr Dawn Elise Snipes Learn how anger guilt and jealousy impact relationships relationshipskills Please SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to be notified when we release new videos and when Dr Dawn Elise Snipes is going live each month Sponsored by TherapyNotes com Manage your practice securely and efficiently Two free months of TherapyNotes with coupon code CEU CEUs are available for this presentation at a https 3A 2F 2Fwww allceus com 2Fmember 2Fcart 2Findex 2Fproduct 2Fid 2F1226 2Fc 2F a Want to listen to it as a podcast instead Subscribe to Counselor Toolbox Podcast a https 3A 2F 2Fpod link 2F1120947649 a The Many Facets of Anger Instructor Dr Dawn-Elise Snipes PhD LPC-MHSP LMHC Objectives Explore the function of anger Identify the types of threats that may prompt anger Identify different types of anger to include Run of the mill anger Irritation Resentment Envy Jealousy Guilt Regret Function of Anger Anger is part of the fight or flight reaction which is your brain s natural response to a perceived threat Anger pushes away or helps you dominate a threat Types of Threats Activity How do you handle threats to your Anger Irritation Anger is a generic term that describes the fight reaction in response to a threat You feel like you can conquer the threat OR You do not see any options for escape think cat in a corner Anger happens on a continuum ranging from mild irritation to rage The level of anger experienced is usually in proportion to The immediate threat The cumulative effect of multiple threats Many times when people feel angry underneath they also have a sense of helplessness or disempowerment What Triggers Your Anger Threats Rejection Isolation Loss of Control The Unknown Death Loss Failure What to Do About Anger Identify the threat Explore the automatic beliefs triggering the anger Why is this making you angry It makes me angry when I hate it when How is this similar to other unresolved situations in your past Are there alternate explanations for the situation What to Do About Anger Identify the threat cont What threat theme is it related to Rejection Is it really about you Failure Are you globalizing What can you learn Loss of Control The Unknown What parts of this were and were not in your control What actions are worth your energy Death Loss How does this impact how you see the world How does it impact how you see yourself Activity Resentment Resentment is anger directed at others for things they either did and shouldn t have or didn t do and should have What is the impact of holding on to resentments Many times underlying resentment are hurt feelings Example You invited Jane to the party and not me What Do You Resent Envy Jealousy Envy and jealousy can be thought of as anger at someone else for having something you want What is the impact of holding on to envy Envy Jealousy Many times underlying envy and jealousy are Low self-esteem People don t like me because I am not as pretty as her Lack of gratitude awareness Focusing primarily on all the things you don t have Lack of clarity about personal goals I wish I were a CEO like her but that would mean sacrificing other things more important to me Erroneous conclusions If I were rich I would be happy Activity What Do You Envy Notice how each of these is the opposite of a threat theme Activity What Do You Envy Why might people envy you In what way does each of those things represent Acceptance and Inclusion Control and Power Success Someone having something you lost What does it mean if people don t envy you Rejection Loss of power control Failure Activity What Do You Envy Guilt Regret Guilt and regret are anger directed at yourself for things you either did and shouldn t have or didn t do and should have Anger represents your minds way of identifying a threat and getting you to do something In what way is holding on to guilt and regret An effective response to the threat Preventing you from effectively responding to the threat Forgiveness Forgiveness is a power move Summary Anger exists on a continuum It is a response to a real or perceived threat designed to get you to do something The intensity of the response often represents the level of threat Many times threats are perceived based on prior learning experiences that trigger memories or critical self-talk By knowing what is important and meaningful in your life you can more effectively identify what things actually present a threat and respond more effectively