Assertiveness Skills and Techniques

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16 Jul 2021

Dr Dawn-Elise Snipes provides tips for developing assertiveness skills and discusses why assertiveness skills are an important part of depression treatment and anxiety treatment SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to get notified when new videos are uploaded Unlimited CEUs 59 based on these videos at a https 3A 2F 2Fallceus com a for social work counseling marriage and family therapy addiction counseling case management pastoral counseling and more Want to chat with me Join me at a https 3A 2F 2Fmembers docsnipes com 2F a For 10 month you get access to my tips for health and wellness and you can text chat with me privately A direct link to the CEU course is a https 3A 2F 2Fwww allceus com 2Fmember 2Fcart 2Findex 2Fproduct 2Fid 2F34 2Fc 2F a assertiveness communicationskills boundaries relationshipskills Assertiveness Skills Presented by Dr Dawn-Elise Snipes Executive Director AllCEUs Podcast Host Counselor Toolbox and Happiness Isn t Brain Surgery Objectives Define Assertiveness Overcoming the Stress Barrier Overcoming the Social Barrier Overcoming the Belief Barrier Reality Check Nonverbal behavior Giving your opinion Giving constructive not critical feedback Making requests without trying to control What is Assertiveness Assertiveness means stating your feelings wants and needs Clearly With ownership With conviction but I don t know Assertive behavior may not be appropriate in all workplaces Some organizational and national cultures may view assertive behavior as rude or even offensive Research has also suggested that gender can have a bearing on how assertive behavior is perceived with men more likely to be rewarded for being assertive than women Advantages of Assertiveness Assertiveness helps us feel good about ourselves and others Assertiveness leads to the development of mutual respect with others Assertiveness increases our self-esteem Assertiveness helps us achieve our goals Why Not Be Assertive Failure to be assertive stems from Prior efforts to be assertive being punished Fear of rejection Need for external validation Assertiveness requires Confidence Emotional control Effective verbal and nonverbal communication skills Staying Calm 6 Characteristics of Assertiveness Eye contact Demonstrates interest shows sincerity Body posture Congruent body language will improve the significance of the message Gestures Appropriate gestures help to add emphasis Voice A level well modulated tone is more convincing and acceptable and is not intimidating Timing Use your judgement to maximize receptivity and impact Content How where and when you choose to comment is probably more important than Techniques for Becoming Assertive Behavioral rehearsal Repeated assertion stay focused avoid getting side tracked Fogging allows you to receive criticism comfortably acknowledge the criticism agree that there may be some truth to what they say but remain the judge of your choice of action Workable compromise Nonverbals Constructive Feedback Constructive feedback is objective and measurable Making Requests win win Say No Poor time management leads to stress and irritability and the downfall of assertiveness Get in touch with what is important Assertive Know your human needs Biological needs Safety and security Creation participation contribution Love belonging understanding significance Self-Esteem growth autonomy Pay special attention to those universal needs that you think are not important to you Explore if you are using self-deception or denial and why I didn t want that promotion anyway Connect your severe negative emotions anger anxiety depression envy etc to the fear of your specific needs not being met Steps to Being Assertive Identify areas where you are and are not assertive Steps to Being Assertive Face your fears and practice being assertive with moderate self-exposure Example of practicing assertiveness with the opposite sex r Develop your social skills to improve your self-confidence Read 10 different books in an area where you are not assertive Join a public speaking course if you re terrified of public appearances Practice negotiating with a friend if you re afraid of heated discussions Learn how to manage difficult people and conflict resolution skills if you have difficult people in your life aggressive martyr borderline narcissistic AllCEUs provides counseloreducation and CEUs for LPCs LMHCs LMFTs and LCSWs as well as addiction counselor precertification training and continuing education Live Interactive Webinars 5 a https 3A 2F 2Fwww allceus com 2Flive-interactive-webinars 2F a AllCEUs courses are accepted in most states because we are approved as an education provider for NAADAC the States of Florida and Texas Boards of Social Work and Mental Health Professional Counseling the California Consortium for Addiction Professionals and Professions