Gaslighting 101 PACER Integrated Behavioral Health

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16 Jul 2021

Want to chat with me Join me at a https 3A 2F 2Fmembers docsnipes com 2F a For 10 month you get access to my daily tips for health and wellness and you can text chat with me privately Live discussion with Dr Dawn Elise Snipes on coping with anxiety and depression and other physical and mental illnesses with an integrative behavioral health approach A Quickstart guide to identifying and recovering from gaslighting behaviors gaslighting addiction anxietyrelief election2020 and more Please LIKE SHARE SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to be notified when we release new videos and when Dr Dawn Elise Snipes is going live each month Access additional benefits by JOINING here a https 3A 2F 2Fwww youtube com 2Fchannel 2FUCAE3JJi8tX7gfhZEXCUGd A 2Fjoin a Gaslighting is the act of manipulating a person by forcing them to question their thoughts and the events occurring around them and is a form of emotional abuse A victim of gaslighting can be pushed so far that they question their own sanity and develop clinical depression and anxiety because they feel unsafe and powerless To gain power control money To do or get away with something they want Very common behavior among people with antisocial or narcissistic personality disorder and people with addictions Note People with antisocial and narcissistic personality disorder have very little if any empathy Think Ted Bundy Tell blatant lies No proof No basis in fact Deny something is true or that they said something EVEN when the victim has proof Creates fears and insecurities about other things i e safety or goodness to prevent the victim from looking at the gaslighting behavior Will manipulate things to make it appear the victim is crazy or simply tell them they are wrong and dismiss their concerns They align others against the victim finding people who won t question their version of reality even calling the victim crazy Use things the victim cherishes as ammunition kids identity freedom They wear the victim down --- repeating the same lies and manipulations and getting others to repeat the same lies until the victim just doesn t have the energy to fight and gives in to their superior knowledge Their actions do not match their words Example They say they want a good relationship but regularly insult the victim and do whatever they want irrespective of the victim s wishes They throw in occasional reinforcement giving a compliment or feigning to take the victims perspective for a moment to make themselves appear as good Symptoms of victims Being more anxious and less confident than you used to be Feeling angry and powerless Hopelessness and anhedonia depression Feeling like everything you do is wrong and believing it s your fault when things go wrong Apologizing often even for things you don t believe are your fault Feeling something s wrong but being unable to identify what it is Often questioning whether your response is appropriate e g Wondering if you were too unreasonable Isolating to avoid confrontation Finding it increasingly hard to make decisions Focus on what you CAN change PACER to create safety and empowerment Physical Safety Sleep Nutrition Avoiding addictive behaviors Physical health Affective Do things that help you feel happy Acknowledge anxiety and anger nonjudgmentally and respond with TOWARD thoughts and behaviors that use your energy purposefully Focus on what you CAN change PACER Cognitive Practice hardiness Focus on authenticity not approval Find the facts collect evidence to help you confirm the truth for your own sanity Give yourself permission to feel your feelings Let go of the wish for things to be different Environmental Seek safety Surround yourself with support Eliminate things in the environment that trigger your anxiety Focus on what you CAN change PACER Relational Develop healthy detachment good boundaries You cannot control anyone s opinion even if you are right Don t debate what is true Be assertive and refuse to tolerate being yelled at or called names if it is safe otherwise seek safety Recognize the gaslighter will never admit responsibility or openly consider the facts Doing so would mean they had to admit wrongdoing